It was one of those moments where I was instantly glad I had thought things through. I knew in advance there might be a chance that someone would say something nasty, negative, or in this case just plain stupid. I have found if you can prepare in advance for it, the actual is never as bad as the imagined. And so, when I read a comment on an article I had published in the Globe and Mail that basically indicated that the only reason I had quit my corporate life was because a sugar daddy was paying my way, three things happened, in quick succession, over a matter of seconds – and then I was over it.
The first thing that happened was that I had a gut reaction to be hurt that anyone could think anything negative about my positive intentioned article. Two seconds later I became angry that someone who doesn’t know me would put out to the world a comment that doesn’t represent me and my truth – and really goes against all logic when you read the article. For a moment I was tempted to respond to the comment with something equally ridiculous – but refused to sink to his level. And finally, three seconds after that, I remembered that his comment wasn’t my truth. It had nothing to do with me and my truth, and once that realization hit, I felt incredible peace and a little bit sorry for the guy that he goes through life thinking negative thoughts about people he doesn’t even know – what does that say to how he feels about himself.
“But, Christy, you’re writing about it now, are you sure you’re over it?” You might ask. I am writing about it to prove my point, and because I think it’s kinda funny. I mean, I wish I had a sugar daddy paying my way, but the only one paying the bills in this house is me – unfortunately Sophie, the chocolate lab hasn’t found a paying gig yet.
In a Mind Set #GrowthZone first, I have filmed a short video on the three steps that will help you to know your truth and conquer your naysayers. And in the mean time, I’ve been taking applications for sugar daddies for the guy who made the comment – I feel like he could use a little sugar in his life, might make him a bit sweeter.
So there you have it. Three easy steps to help remind yourself that when someone says something that might hold you back from taking action, even if that someone is the voice in your head, ask yourself these three questions:
- What is my motivation?
- Why is this important to me? How does it align with my values?
- Who else benefits? (And it’s ok if it’s only me).
As an aside, stepping out of your comfort zone is going to open you up for negative reactions – that’s a reality. However, it also opens you up to the opportunity for RAVING ADVOCATES – those people who are so thrilled with what you have done, who connect with your work, who feel compelled to let you know how you stepping out of your comfort zone has inspired them. Those raving advocates will trump any negative Nelly any day – so take a risk and do something you’ve been scared to try.
Leave a comment: What are the actions, whether personal, business, or professional that you are scared to take?
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